Hello world! Welcome back to another blog. Here is my review of how I got through adversity this year.
On 28th August 2012, my mum sadly passed away from breast cancer, and this year marked 11 years since this happened. I didn't understand the full conception of death at the time, but as I got older, I started to get it, and therefore this time of year got emotional for me. As someone who is also autistic as well, I deal with it differently.
Sometimes it can be shutting myself out from others, but other times it can be just doing nothing. This may be a short blog, but here are some tips that I do whenever I face anything challenging, in the hope that whoever is reading this will do the same.
Allowing me to feel:
At this time of year, and this will be me being blunt... I feel like I don't want to be around anymore. I wasn't sure why as this was at first but after feeling like this last year, especially when her majesty passed away around the same time (which will also affect others but fir me it got to me badly), it was possibly my lowest I've felt. So for me its important to let it out, but obviously in a healthy way. So in this case, I go into a room and let it out.
Taking some time off:
Normally I have the anniversary off from my day job as getting up early on a day like this is not exactly the best combination. But this time it fell on a bank holiday, and where I work I had to work in order to get that time back and use it for further holidays next year. But maybe that was where it also got too much, as the Friday after the anniversary it all got too much at work and I was advised to go home. I was adamant at first, but deep down I knew it was the right thing to do. And that's okay, as they do say without your health you have nothing. This includes mentally as well as physically, as if you're not in the right frame of mind mentally to work how will you be in the right frame of mind physically?
Special interests:
Whenever I feel down, I often turn to my special interests to calm down. For me that's watching tv and clips on YouTube. These can be silly clips, moving clips and random clips from movies. Some say it would be procrastination (and I'll admit there have been a few occasions where I have done that), but at times like this, it's also beneficial as it takes me away from reality. Just for the day at least.
Doing nothing:
Some people might call it lazy, but not for me. As soon as I got back from work that day, I lied on the sofa straight away for what feels like forever, and that's okay. Doing nothing is productive, especially on occasions like this, as my body needs rest, and I think this was a occasion. This is also an essential tip as like with exercise, you're body may need a break to let the muscles grow, and to also rest and rejuvenate so that when you come back, you're more determined than ever. It was a similar scenario when I first joined Act On This in 2021, where i stopped for abit where I thought I had a relapse of a previous health scare (which turned out to be a panic attack), so I decided to take a break, but when i came back i was in the state of flow. So sometimes doing nothing is key in self development and scenarios like mine.
And those were my top tips. And to finish this blog, the biggest tip of them all is just to be kind. Loosing a loved one is hard enough, but to loose someone to an illness like cancer is even harder. So being there for someone is the greatest gift of them all.
See you soon for another blog. Until next time…
This is the autistic actress signing off :)
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